The Joys of Four

I haven’t done one of these posts for ages (they are a bit self indulgent after all), but I thought it felt like time to celebrate the joys of living with a four year old.  Or at least this particular four year old.

Doing the Yam Dance

Doing the Yam Dance

1. She’s a great older sister.  In fact the adoration has continued steadily since the birth of Miss Two and goes both ways.  I can’t, now, imagine one without the other.  But now Miss Four has really started looking out for her younger sister.  You see the younger one is a runner and Miss Four has steadfastly stepped into the role of chaser and restrainer when where out and about and I have my hands full.  She also makes sure Miss Two in included in games when she has other little four year friends around who aren’t used to playing with two year olds.  It’s really quite lovely see Miss Four take Miss Two under her wing, calling her Darling and Sweetheart and giving her lots of attention and affection.

Just Thinking

Just Thinking

2. Her love of reading and books continues but now she has discovered a love of ‘writing’ as well.  While she may only know how to write a few letters correctly, she does her own version of writing while she verbally tells her story or poem.


3. Her curiosity.  I think this goes hand in hand with being a talker. The questions are endless and become increasingly more complex and difficult to answer.  My research skills are getting a work out.


4. She’s confident, much more so than I ever was.  The best recent example of this came at a dance class she started just three weeks ago.  Most of the girls have been doing the class all year and know the moves much better than Miss Four.  But she is determined and follows the teachers instructions as closely as she can, taking everything she says literally (which sometimes leads to funny moments).  At the end of each class they have a free dance, where Miss Four loves nothing more than to watch herself in the mirror at the front, and a chance to do ‘show and tell.’  Creating they’re own dances and doing them in front of the rest of the class.  From the very first lesson Miss Four got up in front of 15 unfamiliar girls and their mothers or fathers and did her own dance.  I was very proud of her for having that unwavering confidence in her own ability and creativity.  And those Michael Jackson/Jackson Five videos on YouTube have really paid off!


5. Her sense of humour.  Miss Four has always loved to laugh and does so easily and with her whole body.  She loves jokes and making up her own jokes.  And now when she’s watching something or reading something that is funny you really know about it.  Her laugh is infectious, especially for Miss Two who usually has no idea what’s so funny but laughs heartily anyway.

There are lots of other things, but these are the ones that have come to the forefront recently and I love watching them develop and change.

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5 Responses to The Joys of Four

  1. Lorna says:

    What a lovely post – We have five children, the youngest being 4 yrs old. Your post made me smile and reflect on all the gorgeous things my little man does. Thank you.

    • Barbara Good says:

      Thanks Lorna, five children would certainly keep you busy. It’s good to reflect on the wonderful parts of watching kids grow up isn’t it. All too often this gets forgotten in the everyday reality of raising children. Enjoy your littlest one.

  2. Jenny Pearson says:

    Hi Barbara, it was just lovely to read this post, your enjoyment of your beautiful girls shines through. It is certainly a privilege to be a parent and to be allowed into the world of children, they are an endless source of joy and interest, and continue to be so even when the children are adults and parents themselves – and don’t get me started on the absolute wonderment of being a grandparent – what fun, to be able to be as free as they are, because grandparents can, and do, anything, because grandchildren know no different, therefore I have been known to dance freely, roll across the floor, join a bear hunt, stand on my head, because 4 year olds think you can and should be able to do what they do, and of course grandma obliges!!! continue to enjoy Barbara, and to be deservedly proud of your wonderful girls, what a gift.

    • Barbara Good says:

      Jenny, I write these posts every so often for me but also so that in ten or twenty or thirty years time I can look back at them and show the girls just what fun we had and how they brought such joy to my life. I love your description of grandparenthood and would like to see a headstand the next time we meet!

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