I’ve been pondering over the last month whether I would set myself some goals as I have done for the past couple of years. I’ve enjoyed this goal-setting process in the past and I’ve been fairly productive at least in part because I’ve had some ideas about the things I wanted to do in that year. None of the goals were huge, except the tree change one of course, but they kept my motivation for things cooking, gardening or creating related. And it was fun.
This year I’ve decided that my resolution or goal is going to be to cut myself a break and not set any, well not like I have in the past anyway. I’m not going to beat myself up about the kids watching the TV, they do plenty of other things to balance out a bit of screen time. I’m not going to worry if we’re eating processed flat bread (I never could get them right when I made my own), instant noodles or a tin a soup every now and again or even every week. We always tip the scales far more towards the fresh and the home made than the processed but I can’t do it all nor do I want to become a slave to the kitchen. There seems to be a big push towards ‘new’ ways of eating and while I admire in many ways people who can stick to these labour intensive often restrictive eating plans, whole foods, sugar free, gluten free, wheat free, grain free, low FODMAP, GAPS, superfoods etc etc, it’s not me. I’m too skeptical about them – scratch the surface and there seems to equal numbers arguing against them or returning to regular eating because they end up feeling worse – and I don’t have the drive to follow them anyway. I’m going to eat and feed my kids that same foods I grew up with. Lots of fruit and vegetables, some meat (though perhaps a little less than in my own childhood), home cooked meals with some cheats in there and not feel bad about using them.
If all or some of my veggies fail or the kids pull them out before they’re ready, well so what. I enjoy just being out in the garden with the kids (mostly) even if the harvest doesn’t live up to expectations. I’m going to try a finish my Goodreads 2014 challenge (20 books), but it’s no big deal if I don’t. And as for crafting or being creative, I have one project I have to finish by October, anything else is a bonus and a happy little hobby for when I find the time.
What I am going to focus on is making sure I get Miss Four to Kinder on time four days a week (some 8.30am starts in there mean I will have to be a bit more organised than I have been over the past 6 months) and not forget when I am on helper duty. That may seem like a cop out, but I’ve become so used to slow mornings that it is going to take some changes to meet that goal. I’m also going to put my energy into my own studies. It’s been a long time since I was a student and never before did I have to split my time between motherhood and studying, it shall be interesting. And I’ll be spending quite a lot of one on one time with Miss Two, something that has been rare in the past and I intend to make the most of that as well.
So whatever happens this year, I’m not going to send myself of some pointless guilt trip about how I should have done better. It is what it is and that’s it. The real challenge will be sticking to this, I do tend to have high expectations of myself and not feeling guilty for letting some things slide might prove difficult.